There’s a lot of ceremony in bringing just-born babies home from the hospital. If you have other kids, or visiting family, there might be banners and balloons waiting for you at home, maybe a designated photographer, or even a birthday cake. And no doubt baby has a special outfit to come home in. Right?
When Anneliese was born, we didn’t really do any of that. I’m sure I had some cute outfit picked out, but I don’t remember what it was. She was born at night, and the hospital here won’t discharge new moms/babies until 24 hours after the baby nurses for the first time (so it was nighttime then too). We had to stay even longer because their hearing-test-machine was broken and they wanted to try multiple times before they would let us go. I think it was around 9 or 10 pm by the time we left.
They were suspicious of our car seat because it wasn’t an “infant seat” (even though it is safe for babies from 5 pounds, and our install was done by my CPST friend). They wanted me to uninstall it so we could strap Anneliese in and carry her out in it. I told them that was ridiculous, and they compromised by allowing me to hold her while they wheeled me out in a wheelchair. (I guess they were afraid I’d drop her if I carried her? But why would I be less likely to drop her IN a giant heavy non-infant car seat? I don’t really get the logic.)
It was dark, and I don’t remember what she was wearing. I don’t even know if I changed her into her “special outfit” at all, since it was going to be too dark for any pictures or anything.
She hated the car ride. I sat in the back seat with her and she cried the whole way home.
Arriving at home was a relief, not a ceremony. Finally we could snuggle in OUR bed, nurse on our couch, and I could eat our real food and just be comfortable in general.
So what did we change with the second baby?
Oh that’s right. We had him at home. That made the whole “coming home” thing simpler. His coming home story? “I was born. And I was home.” Simple! Perfect.
Did your babies have special “coming home” outfits? Was your hospital weird about the car seats like mine was? Did you have any ceremony at home – banners or anything – when you arrived with baby? Or did you have a home birth like I did with Joseph?